Grey Rocking

When they are damming your ass and just won’t f’ off and leave you alone.
When you just can’t get away from them.
When fawning and peace making won’t cut it this time…

Well it’s too late. Just do what you gotta do. I’ve been here so many times. However, to avoid it getting to that stage, rather than engaging with them at all, just get as boring as hell by giving completely minimalistic answers and ignore them as mush as possible.

As Dr. Ramani Durvasula says, “don’t go deep” with the conversation. Tell them nothing. Ask them nothing. Answer them but keep it to as few words as possible.

“Yup”. “Oh yea?”. “If you say so”. “Nope, no news, nothing of any real interest happened today”. “Yea, whatever works I suppose”. “Nope”. etc.

Google it, there’s a tonne of info out there on this one.

Is it useful?

I find it very useful a lot of the time yep, I use it as much as possible.

Does it work?

Not always and sometimes it goes spectacularly wrong when she attacks me for not having a conversation with her. It can drive her daft at times and she doesn’t hold back. Susan has attacked and penetrated this particular defense successfully many times.

I adapted to my needs though I guess, it’s like fishing, you don’t just pull the fish in, you have to give it some slack too. I play it by ear and adapt it Instinctively as needs must but I give her no information whatsoever. Information is future ammunition.