Codependent?

This is me (well, maybe… apparently.. let’s not generalize… anyway…). And this is not necessarily good. I believe the following things about me are a combination of being:

• Naive
• Emotionally immature
• Empathic (maybe. I’m not sure)
• But above all… codependent (again, maybe, let’s roll with it for now)

Here are a few things about me that may resonate:

• I find myself surrounded with annoying needy people.
• I feel a little bit sorry for prisoners in jail.
• I always give people the benefit of the doubt.
• I continue to do so even when the doubt has been realized, I give them a second chance.
• I avoid conflict even if it means tolerating unpleasantness.
• I really prefer not to harm spiders or other insects.
• I like to think the homeless drunk is really quite harmless and ok once you get to know him.
• I think there’s good in everybody if you can just reach them.
• I think if bad people had an education or a passion for perhaps computer programming it would keep them busy and turn them good.
• I really hope that the characters from opposite factions can become friends before the movie ends.
• I really hope that the opposing athletes will embrace and acknowledge each other at the end of the race.
• I feel embarrassed for others.
• I’m a helper, I come when people call even when I know it’s gonna waste my time.
• I feel a little bit sorry for the opposition team when my team beats them.
• I simply cannot fathom why on Middle Earth Lord Sauron would want to destroy such a beautiful world. In fact this premise for the Lord of the Rings story never really sounded plausible to me in the first place. Surely everybody would just rather live in peace?

Healing

Some of this is ok I guess but I need to fix some of it because it indicates:

• Weak boundaries.
• Naivety to the fact that there are bad people in the world heal bent on harm.
• I also need to come to terms with the fact that there are people in the world who’s main goal is to control and dominate other people. I have a really hard time accepting this and I believe that is how I ended up in this narcissistic relationship in the first place.

Do any of these personality traits feel familiar to you? I’m guessing they might otherwise you probably wouldn’t be here.