The dentist

You couldn’t make this up!

Susan brings our daughter to the dentist. She’s eight. I’m still helping her brush her teeth every morning and evening.

Big problems. The dentist was disgusted with me apparently. I’m not brushing her teeth properly and he’d like to have a word with me ( #gaslighting #blame-shifting #autocratic ) .

Our daughter had plaque on her front bottom teeth, “really really bad” plaque apparently. In fact it’s so bad that my sister got a text from Susan about it because our daughter was in her house overnight just recently. She’ll be taking over the teeth brushing from now on and there’s absolutely no more candy from now on ( #facade-maintenance #magical-thinking #grandiosity ) .

Analysis

• This is gaslighting. It’s complete nonsense. It’s an attack on me, an attempt to alter my reality by asserting that I’m not looking after the teeth properly ( #gaslighting #manipulation ) .
• It’s controlling ( #control ) .
• It’s jealousy ( #narcissistic-injury ) .
• It’s an assertion of control.
• It’s entitlement that she can bash two people over it ( #entitlement #vitriol ) .
• It’s magical thinking that she’s somehow going to take over because the rest of us are clearly incompetent ( #grandiosity ) . She didn’t, just in case you fell for this BS ( #manipulation ) .
• Further gaslighting is that I get no recognition (not that I want it) for our daughters teeth being in perfect condition (aside from the slim possibility of a little plaque) ( #gaslighting #devaluation ) .
• It’s a lack of empathy that she can just fling this insulting crap at me for her own ego boosting ( #lack-of-empathy #supply ) .
• It’s triangulating the teeth and the dentist to assert her control ( #triangulation #control ) .
• It’s blame-shifting and a lack of accountability. I mean, is Susan, Emma’s mother, not responsible in any way for the condition of her daughters teeth ( #blame-shifting ) .

This is the kinda bullshit that goes on day to day.