Repairing windows

Windows and vectors for torture!

Further dreamy future faking. Years later we decided to get quotes for much needed window and door repairs ( #future-faking ) .

We got a quote from a guy. The guy was rejected. Somebody she knew had gotten this guy and he was bad (I now know this to be triangulation of the bullshit variety) ( #triangulation #bullshitting ) .

We got a quote from another guy. A guy whom Susan spotted on Facebook and thought must be wonderful. Somebody she knew had gotten this guy and he was great (also triangulation of the bullshit variety). This guy was later rejected too. Keep in mind that this is just future faking, not future building.

I convinced her to get the Facebook guy in the end. Unfortunately, he did not do a good job, in fact, it was rather unfortunate, he did more harm than good with the repairs. We had him back to rectify the matter but it didn’t help.

Now, there are many obvious things to do here, a healthy couple could even bond over the matter and work to resolve it while educating our daughter in the process. Educating her on the “s**t happens” aspect of it and how a loving couple can work through it. We did something else. I took months of flack, wrath and scorn over it. Susan delivered the flack, wrath and scorn ( #vitriol #narcissistic-rage #lack-of-empathy ) . Years on, I’m still devalued for this and we still have drafty windows and doors ( #devaluation #punishment ) . How treacherous I was to get this guy when she wanted the other guy. Despite the fact that this was just wrong on many levels, I continued to apologize right up until the divorce started to happen ( #fawn-response #trauma-bond ) .

Now every time I pass a house that seems to be unloved like ours, I wonder which of the occupants is on the narcissistic spectrum. I fantasize about knocking on their door and seeing how long it would take me to figure it out. I wonder if the victim knows what’s going on. Would my story register with them?