Susan's abusive crap part 2

Insists that my father's cancer will return and when it does “you can all go to hell” she won't be helping this time. “Ye're ungrateful. After all I did for him getting him the treatment he needed and getting him a nice room in the hospital”. I've no idea how much influence Susan had but she has been thanked a thousand times.

Deliberately damaged a USB port on my work MacBook, rammed a screwdriver (or something) into it. Accused me of doing similar damage to her laptop. Claims that I damaged my own to disguise damage I did to hers. Her's had old photos of Emma. She's lost those photos now. Yet….. her laptop powers up perfectly and displays the login screen despite the damage.

The LED lightbulb that I fitted has blown. It replaced a lightbulb that had also blown of natural causes a year or two ago. She wants “her” lightbulb returned, by tomorrow.

I had to beg her to get a 4Watt hall light. I had to beg her further to actually have it on when it's dark. She regularly turns it off and insists that it stay off. This means that I navigate the hallway in total darkness after she's gone to bed.

She refused to allow an electrician to repair the doorbell.

After a drive in warm weather with no air conditioning in my car (it was not working at the time) she accuses me of refusing to let her open the window and consequently got sick three weeks later.

Completely mangled the kitchen door handle (yea, I dunno) and accused me of doing it.

Strongly advocating window repair guys. Later blaming me and raging at me for them doing a poor job. Says she never wanted them. Wanted the other guy that quoted us. Yet before the window repairs, she had some bizarre story that she was talking to an elderly lady down the road who got this other guy and had nothing good to say about him. Later it was the other way round, that her guy was actually wonderful… or some bonkers nonsense.

Tells Emma she's nothing but a little bitch.

Tells Emma that her friends are better than her at XYZ. Or that her friends wouldn't do XYZ.

Threatens to “talk to your teachers tomorrow” about Emma's bad behavior. Has used the phrase “I'll embarrass you Emma”.

Tells Emma she should have aborted her.

Constantly tells me she's spoken to “Mike” about getting the house painted. This is a deliberate dig at me because I painted the house.

Her anger towards me can last for hours even days, sometimes weeks. During her rants, if somebody arrives at the door or if her phone rings, she can switch off the anger and become completely charming only to return immediately to the anger afterwards. It's as though she's doing it deliberately.

Neglectful. She makes angry demands to spend time with Emma. To be the parent to bring her to soccer, basketball or whatever. Then she doesn't turn up to do it.

RECENTLY: demands to be informed and to be an approver for every playdate. Then doesn't answer her phone or answer messages related to same.

Happens on rare occasions: Gives out to me about what I put in which bin. I'm religious about what I put in what bin. I'm pretty sure this is deliberate to start a fight.

Not present for Emma's 10th and 11th birthdays until evening time.

Telling me her friends begged her not to marry me.

Keeping medication in the car hidden from me. Claiming that I have a problem with medication in general when I absolutely do not in any way shape or form. This seems to be yet another vector towards combat. I mean if it's hidden, why mention it at all?

Claiming and telling everybody that I have a temper and that I get angry with her. I do not, I got out of answering her or reacting to her years ago.

Attacking me loudly while Emma is asleep. She just wants a reaction out of me knowing that I might respond when Emma is being woken and kept awake with this horror show.

Openly telling Emma that she has some important information which could influence the divorce proceedings in her favor.

Steals (a lot of) money/cash from me.

Steals money from Emma's piggybank.

Tried to rip off Holly's head. Denies it. Emma remembered the incident for years. Granny reattached the head. Holly is Emma's favorite teddy/baby, her life-long source of comfort companion.

Regularly threatens to “smash” my computer equipment (my work tools).